How We Work
EXPECTED RESULTS
After many years of specializing in working with couples, I have found that the results are largely dependent on two essential ingredients:
1. OUR PART: Skilled, empathic therapists with specialized training in working with couples. They must be able to identify the underlying dynamics behind the differences and conflicts, explain these dynamics to the couple, be able to help the couple recognize when these dynamics are operating, and teach them new skills and behaviors to substitute for the old ones.
2. YOUR PART: Each partner must be committed to taking responsibility for their own behavior where necessary. This includes being willing to learn how they get triggered and equally important, how their partner gets triggered. Then they must be willing to learn and practice new, healthier behaviors that contribute to restoring trust, closeness, and positive feelings between them. Tools will be presented in sessions that need to be put to use at home during the week.
We don't want you to just take our suggestions and do them; we want you to understand 'why' these suggestions work. Our Goal is that the tools you learn will serve you throughout your life, long after couple therapy is done.
We will do our part. If you will do your part, I see no reason why your relationship can't be significantly improved and much more satisfying.